Frasier’s New Wife Asked For A Sign Before Agreeing To Date Him

“But he answered and said to them, “An evil and adulterous generation seeks after a sign.” (Matthew 12:39)

Recently, I was watching the Kelsey Grammer interview with Oprah on her new cable network – OWN. Grammer had just married again for the fourth time. His new wife, Kayte, twenty-five years his junior, joined him for part of the interview. They met while he was on flight from Los Angeles to London. She was a flight attendant and he was still married to his third wife, Camille. Grammer recounted that her smile and warm personality attracted him to her. He mustered the courage to ask her if they could trade phone numbers before deplaning.

It was Kayte who recounted how she reached a decision about seeing a married man. She clearly liked him and felt drawn to him, but had pause about seeing him since he was married. While on a double-decker bus on her way to her home from the airport, she asked for a sign for the right thing to do:

“I wouldn’t have (tried to date him, knowing he was married), it’s against my morals. Anyway…I got the coach (bus) to London and I sat there and I hadn’t heard from him. And I thought, ‘Shall I call him? Shall I call him?’ And I thought, ‘No, I can’t, I can’t. If I should call him, I want a sign,’ and I put my head down and I looked up and we drove past a restaurant or a shop and it was called Frasier’s. And I thought, ‘No, no,’ and I said, ‘I want another sign, I need another sign.’ I looked up again and we drove past Crane Jewelers. And then I said, ‘I want one more sign, if I’m supposed to call him, I just want one more,’ and as I thought that we drove past the hotel he was staying in.”

I thought about that interview the next day and realized that the sign Kayte received was not from God. It was from Satan. I remembered the Apostle Paul’s warning about the devil in situations like these: “For Satan himself transforms himself into an angel of light.” (2 Corinthians 11:14) What some may think was a sign from God was nothing more than devil convincing her that it was okay to go out with Grammer.

There isn’t a verse in the Bible that supports Kayte Walsh’s decision to see Kelsey Grammer while he was still married. God never supports sin and never tempts us to engage in sin. Scripture is crystal clear on that point: “Let no one say when he is tempted, ‘I am tempted by God’; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he himself tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.” (James 1:13-16)

I rarely write devotions like this one, but Oprah’s interview with Kelsey Grammer presented a classic example of how we can allow our faith to justify our actions, even when there is absolutely no Scriptural support for it. We cannot and should not use God to rationalize sin in our lives.

I’m not condemning Kayte Walsh for her decision to sin by seeing Kelsey Grammer while he was still married; and I have no right to judge her for it. The truth is we all sin every day, and our sins are no different than her sin. They distance us from God and deny us the full relationship with him that he desires for us.

Kayte Walsh’s conscience told her she was wrong to have done what she did. In fact, she admitted it to Oprah: “I’m not proud of the way we started out” Walsh told Winfrey. “Because he was in a marriage.” She should have listened to it, as we all should when we know what the right thing to do is!